Every relationship has conflict — it’s unavoidable. But not all disagreements need to become a fight. Easier said than done, right? In my clinical work, I help neurodiverse, queer and polyamorous couples argue less, communicate better and connect more. …

You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves. Mary Oliver was a queer poet living in New York City in the 1960s and 70s. Often in her work there’s a theme of looking to nature as a reminder of how to live a…

If you are around my age (30!) and you attended public school in the southern or midwest United States, there’s a good chance that The Outsiders was a part of your middle school reading curriculum. The novel by S.E. Hinton tells the story of a group of Oklahoma teenage boys…

You can tell a horse about the amazing mental health benefits of therapy, but you can’t make it drink the emotional labor of personal growth. Hello! It’s me, your therapist friend, answering the internet’s questions about relationships, mental health and how to get the most out of going to therapy…

Sometimes the hardest part of asking for help is knowing where to start and who to turn to. Welcome to another edition of Ask Your Therapist Friend! …

And what’s the “right” amount or way to exercise for a healthy brain? Your Therapist Friend shares the surprising science challenging old ideas of “fitness” Welcome to another edition of Ask Your Therapist Friend! I’m Kayla, a licensed therapist (LMSW), answering the internet’s questions about mental health, relationships and how…

Each week, Your Therapist Friend answers the internet’s questions about mental health, relationships and how to get the most out of going to therapy. Research shows that the client-therapist relationship is the biggest predictor on whether or not therapy will be successful. But if we’re new to therapy … how…

Each week, Your Therapist Friend answers the internet’s questions about mental health, relationships and how to be in therapy. Today, we’re tackling transference. From a r/therapy post: “I’m seeing a new therapist who is incredible — but she looks nearly exactly like my aunt who was murdered.” I’ve spent quite…

Each week, Your Therapist Friend answers the internet’s questions about mental health, relationships and how to be in therapy. From a r/therapy post: How do you cope with everything you learn about yourself? I started therapy a bit more than 1 month ago. By now I’ve learnt SO MUCH about…