“How Do I Know If My Therapist is a Good Fit?”
Each week, Your Therapist Friend answers the internet’s questions about mental health, relationships and how to get the most out of going to therapy.
Research shows that the client-therapist relationship is the biggest predictor on whether or not therapy will be successful. But if we’re new to therapy … how are we supposed to know if THIS relationship is the right one? That’s a lot of pressure! How do you know if your therapist is a good fit?
Before going to grad school to become a therapist, I had been in my own therapy on and off for throughout my 20s. And during that time I’ve had 7 different therapists … so as you can imagine, not all of them were the best fit for me.
Some of the those early relationships ended due to no fault of my own or the therapist’s—a college counseling center, a community clinic with limited sessions, moving cities—but there were definitely a couple that were not a good use of my time or much help.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself to know if your therapist is a good fit and whether or not you should seek someone new.
Question 1: How do they make you feel?
It’s important to have a therapist with whom you feel comfortable being as honest as possible about everything on your…
