You can tell a horse about the amazing mental health benefits of therapy, but you can’t make it drink the emotional labor of personal growth.

Hello! It’s me, your therapist friend, answering the internet’s questions about relationships, mental health and how to get the most out of going to therapy…


Sometimes the hardest part of asking for help is knowing where to start and who to turn to.

Welcome to another edition of Ask Your Therapist Friend! …


And what’s the “right” amount or way to exercise for a healthy brain? Your Therapist Friend shares the surprising science challenging old ideas of “fitness”

Welcome to another edition of Ask Your Therapist Friend! I’m Kayla, a licensed therapist (LMSW), answering the internet’s questions about mental health, relationships and how…


Each week, Your Therapist Friend answers the internet’s questions about mental health, relationships and how to get the most out of going to therapy.

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Research shows that the client-therapist relationship is the biggest predictor on whether or not therapy will be successful. But if we’re new to therapy … how…


Each week, Your Therapist Friend answers the internet’s questions about mental health, relationships and how to be in therapy. Today, we’re tackling transference.

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From a r/therapy post:
“I’m seeing a new therapist who is incredible — but she looks nearly exactly like my aunt who was murdered.”

I’ve spent quite…


Each week, Your Therapist Friend answers the internet’s questions about mental health, relationships and how to be in therapy.

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From a r/therapy post:
How do you cope with everything you learn about yourself?

I started therapy a bit more than 1 month ago. By now I’ve learnt SO MUCH about…


Just because our brains evolved to struggle, doesn’t mean we have to suffer.

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Life is suffering. At least, that’s what the Buddha said. Artists, writers and philosophers throughout history have named this pervasive existential dread the human condition. …


The right fit can make the difference between moving forward or staying stuck.

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As a mental health professional and someone who has been in therapy off and on for over a decade, I believe everyone can benefit from therapy.

Yet I’ve known too many people who have said therapy didn’t work or wasn’t for them. Research shows that the primary reason talk therapy…


Because therapy is supposed to help you feel *less* anxious

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Many of us have contemplated quitting therapy entirely rather than overcome our anxieties about video chat sessions:

  • Seeing my own face is so distracting!
  • I can’t when I’m not seated across from a real person.
  • How do I open up with it’s just me sitting with my computer?
  • Ugh, weird…


And it could be the reason you can’t focus on work, school, or really much of anything.

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The prefrontal cortex is the part of your brain known as the “thinking center”. The thinking center of your brain is responsible for exactly that — your conscious thoughts and cognitive processes. …

Your Therapist Friend

Kayla Lane Freeman — Licensed therapist answering the internet’s questions about mental health, relationships and how to be in therapy

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